I’ve been thinking a lot about 1 Corinthians 7 recently. Paul writes that as Christians it is good to stay unmarried (v. 8). Unmarried women are able to live lives in undivided devotion to the Lord (v. 34-35).
He assures his readers that he’s not trying to restrict them. Paul even considers his own singleness a gift (1 Corinthians 7:7).
I used to long to be loved and married. I watched my younger siblings then friends marry and start families. I wondered why God withheld such blessings from me, what was wrong with me?
But I’ve learned to appreciate the single life. As a single I completed my Master’s degree, I wrote and self-published a book, I traveled to many places, including living in New Jersey for four months to work with FEMA and HOPE Worldwide after Super Storm Sandy hit the east coast. It is likely that I would not have accomplished any of those things had I been married.
Relationships are also gifts, but God wants Christians to reflect His love and draw people closer to Him and help people get to Heaven. As Christians, that is our mission and purpose.
Jesus knew that the single life was not for everyone, but for those for whom singleness was given He encouraged (Matthew 19:12).
I’ve learned to not only be at peace with being single, but to embrace it. My desire is to grow in my relationship with God and be more like Christ. If God brings a man into my life who falls in love with me and leads me Biblically, a man whose love for me reflects that of God’s love for the church in Ephesians 5, a man with whom I can be in the spiritual battle helping each other get to Heaven and ministering to others as well, that will be a blessing.
But if God does not grant me that, Jesus already loves me more than any other human being. He’s already given to me more than anyone could ask or imagine. And His Word is the most beautiful love letter I’ve ever received. My heart is full in Him.
Three times Solomon says, “Do not arouse or awaken love until it so desires (Song of Solomon 2:7, 3:5, 8:4). When love is from God it does not have to be rushed, coerced, forced or manipulated.
Isaiah 54:5 says that God has already proposed to me. I’m already His bride.